“They say love is blind...and marriage is an institution. Well, I'm not ready for an institution for the blind just yet.”
You know, I actually really enjoy being married. Sure, there are times now where "Everyone Loves Raymond" hits closer to home than it did pre-wedding, and maybe thats part of what I love. We're imperfect, but its two people doing the best they can to do this thing. Key word(s): two people. I don't think one person can love enough for both people, can fight enough for both people, an strive enough for both people... I think it takes two (baby... me & you.) Actually 3 because of God, but you know what I mean..
The times I feel really loved aren't huge, flamboyant, or expensive gestures. Its not when Adam's parked in the driveway all night holding a boombox over his head, playing Peter Gebriel's, "In Your Eyes." (Happens all the time!) Its when he reaches for my hand in a crowded place, when he fixes a glass of red wine for me and then we take a walk and talk, its when he wants to drop me off or pick me up so that we can ride together, its the everyday things that leave me feeling affirmed and confident that he's in, he's for me. And, I think in the end thats what we need to know, to know that he/she chose us and chooses us today. He's good at that.
And also we laugh a lot together. Thats key.